Today was the day! I rushed out the door only stopping off to purchase some yellow rosebuds and a box of chocolates. I walked into the assisted living facility in hope of surprising my friend, Margaret Light, who became 92 today. I went to her room and found her bed made and no one there. The nurses at the nursing station directed me to "activities" being held in the cafeteria. I peeped inside the door. I saw approximately 15 elderly people inside, none of which looked like Margaret. I opened the door, "Excuse me, is Margaret Light in here?". One of the nurses gestured over to a lady that was bent over in sleep in a wheelchair. "Margaret?" The lady looked up from her slumber and looked at me. "Margaret, it is Leigh." "Oh, Leigh. I thought you would never come. It has been years. How long has it been?" "Sixteen years, since we have seen one another". The year had been good to her. She looked very much the same. Still pretty. Her hair was fixed perfectly and she wore some "Jackie O" style sunglasses on top of her head. Her green eyes matched her warm up suit. "Oh, Margaret you haven't changed a bit!" We had a wonderful visit. Catching up on all the years, yet it seemed as though we hadn't skipped a beat in our conversation. I was so surprised at her positive attitude, which I told her is what keeps her alive. She was so kind and gracious and told me that she has to be positive for the other patients. Some of which never had visitors. I looked around and became both sad and melancholy at the thought of having to live out the rest of life in a "home". Margaret must have seen my glances. "I am here until I die now, Leigh". It was so sad. "Margaret, you have such a great attitude, you are here to help others live!". It was the truth. Moments later a nurse came to get my friend to take her blood pressure and give some medication, explaining she would bring her back shortly. By now the cafeteria was preparing for the lunch crowd. Patients were wheeled in, many seemingly unaware of any life around them. Some were wheeled to the table, still slumped over in sleep. Some patients came in and spoke to other residents, while a couple others came in a caused a small amount of trouble. One refused to sit in her assigned seat. She argued with the nurse who told her it was assigned seating. The lady said, "But I don't like those people!!" Finally she conceded, "Move yer wheelchair so I can sit down!", she insisted. Anther elderly gentleman kept continually coming up to me mumbling. Four times he did this, touching my shoulder. I insisted to the nurse, who each time drug him away by the hand in his wheelchair that it was ok. I never did understand his words. Such a state of sadness, but yet Margaret saw it as a blessing. Moments later Margaret was returned in her wheelchair by the nurse. "Leigh, please stay for some tea". "I can't Margaret, I am sorry I need to go so that all of you can eat." There was no room at the table and I felt as though I were intruding on others lunch time taking up room at the four person table. Margaret then introduced me to her table mates. One never even looked up, another kept asking me if she could have the roses I brought to Margaret. "They are so pretty." she repeated several times. Wishing Margaret a Happy Birthday (she didn't even realize it was her birthday) I hugged her and kissed her cheek. She kissed my hand and hugged me so tightly. "Leigh, promise me you will come back. Promise me. Will you promise?" "I promise. I love you my friend". And I left. I could hear Margaret telling her table mates who I was, she told of our friendship and the 16 years we had been friends. No one was really listening,I noticed as I looked back, but Margaret was so happy to tell. She was still very sharp in her mind, recalling things even I had not remembered. It was a wonderful day. I went back to her room and took the flowers and chocolates , opening the box for her so she could easily eat them. I left my phone number in hopes that her nephew might pick it up and keep me updated. I plan to return next week. When I do, I am bringing roses for the little lady who wanted some so badly. We should all be reminded of an important lesson through Margaret. Live life with a zest so that it might rub off on others-the way Margaret is doing. No complaints, no pessimism in the face of adversity, but with a love for the Lord and a positive attitude. Until next week...Happy Birthday Margaret Light. 92 Golden Years.
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Leigh discusses home decor, thriftiness (its an art) road trips and life as a stay at home mom. Leigh is a full time mother, a part time photographer, writer and wanna-be roller derby queen/rock star. Her photography and written work is featured in several professional business and local publications. She owns her own photography business, Photographic Memories. Leigh resides in the south with her three children and husband "Big Daddy".
"Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of s*&t."
Words of Wisdom
"Older and wiser voices can always help you find the right path, if you are only willing to listen."-Jimmy Buffett
Sea Joy When I go down by the sandy shore,I can think of nothing I want moreThan to live by the booming blue seaAs the seagulls flutter round about me. I can run around when the tide is outWith the wind and the sand and the sea all about,And the seagulls are swirling and diving for fish.Oh, to live by the sea is my only wish. - Jacqueline Bouvier
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream." --- Mark Twain
The cure for anything is salt water---sweat, tears, or the sea. ~Isak Dinesen
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.Philippians 4:12,13 NIV
Live a good life and in the end it's not the years in the life, it's the life in the years.~ Abe Lincoln
Let your boat of life be light Packed with only what you need --A homely home and simple pleasures,One or two friends, worth the name,Someone to love and someone to love you,A cat, a dog, and a pipe or two,Enough to eat and enough to wear,And a little more than enough to drink...For thirst is a dangerous thing. -- Jerome K Jeromefrom "Three Men in a Boat"
The love of God is like the ocean, you can see its beginnings but not its end.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~Eleanor Roosevelt
"We can make our plans,But the LORD determinesour steps" Proverbs 16:9
"Let us not forget what is best remembered or may we not remember what is best forgotten."
"Fish and overnight guest stink after three days." ~plaque at Fish Camp Restaurant, Orange Beach, Alabama
"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human being experience."
"A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you today just the way you are." Proverbs 27:17
The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have. The richest person is not the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least.
Live simply. Love generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the Rest to God.
Worry is a robber of time and energy. Take comfort within that God's power is what we truly need. Heknows our needs before we can even ask for them.
If you worry, you didn't pray. If you prayed, don't worry. Faith is the ability to not panic.
Don't "find" a religion. "Find" your relationship with God. ~Bill Burgess
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great."-Mark Twain